tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492576230082245370.post5662912487347510660..comments2024-03-18T23:34:48.991-07:00Comments on History & Pearls: Sleeveless DressesAmberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06054086399645454642noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492576230082245370.post-18771288906939442142013-07-18T12:17:39.713-07:002013-07-18T12:17:39.713-07:00So many thoughts!
1) You should start reading so...So many thoughts! <br /><br />1) You should start reading some folks like Lesley at XOJane, Gabi of Gabi Fresh, and other fatshionistas, because they def rock the sleeveless, and even bikinis, regardless of the sizes of whatever body parts. I'm a big fan of Lesley especially, so find her on twitter, she's @52Stations. <br /><br />2)Every single person regardless of size has some sort of body insecurities. For a long time I did not wear anything that showed my knees because I got called knobby knees in school. Eventually (and I really don't remember how), I got the eff over it. And realized ain't nobody caring nearly as much about my knees as I am.<br /><br />3) A major thing that has changed my life is not letting myself talk about myself in a way that I wouldn't tolerate a stranger talking about a friend. I'd slap someone in the face if they said something about a beloved friend's "fat chin," and yet I say things like that to myself a lot. A few years of working to nip that in the bud has really helped.<br /><br />4) And yet, despite all this, I keep saying I will never wear a bikini again because of what gestating twins did to my belly skin and belly button. The whole situation, between stretched skin, a belly button that never went back in, and a strange dent caused by the fact that my abdominal muscles literally ripped apart in the middle, and you've got a large area of insecurity. And no matter how much I try to talk or reason myself out of how I feel about it, I feel really weird about that area of my body. So, I am no expert in body love, just a fellow traveler on the road, trying to love a body I don't really completely love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492576230082245370.post-15744006444424182792013-07-17T08:27:41.381-07:002013-07-17T08:27:41.381-07:00I feel that way about my legs. They're larger ...I feel that way about my legs. They're larger than the rest of me, I think knees are ugly (on everyone, not just my own) and they're weird looking. I wore pants, and only pants, until I moved here and got a job. Then I wore skirts--but usually ones that hit me close to the knees. I wore shorts for running, but certainly not if I was running inside that day with all the mirrors (and in fact, in my first half-marathon I wore running tights under my shorts. Yes, it was cold, but it wasn't that cold--I didn't want photos of my legs.) It wasn't until last summer that I wore shorts, like real shorts, that didn't involve going to the beach and taking them off immediately. I bought three pairs and wore them all summer. And not a damn thing happened. That's when I realized that the only person that gives a crap about my legs was me...and that's OK (we're allowed to have hangups!) but if they were making my life harder, or I was making myself uncomfortable, then that was a problem. I'm glad you had sleeveless success!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492576230082245370.post-52151654563345496742013-07-16T08:41:27.396-07:002013-07-16T08:41:27.396-07:00Katie, I absolutely would hang out with you even i...Katie, I absolutely would hang out with you even if you were stinky (not that you ever have been!). :) I understand though, and I think it's interesting that men can be sweaty and it's kind of hot, because it's manly, but women can't be because it's not "ladylike" or "feminine." Not exactly on the same level, but I feel like I have to wash my hair everyday, even though you're not really supposed to, because it just gets SO greasy, and I feel disgusting, even if no one else notices.Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06054086399645454642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492576230082245370.post-83443729227127813962013-07-16T08:24:26.679-07:002013-07-16T08:24:26.679-07:00Kirby, thank you! I'm so happy that we're ...Kirby, thank you! I'm so happy that we're friends, and thank you for being proud of me. I mean, you're a BAB too, so it just makes sense! I love you too. :)<br /><br />Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06054086399645454642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492576230082245370.post-15709188919094365202013-07-16T07:35:40.565-07:002013-07-16T07:35:40.565-07:00I try as hard as possible to avoid sleeveless dres...I try as hard as possible to avoid sleeveless dresses (without a cardigan or something) because I sweat SO BADLY and I am the smelliest person ever when I sweat. It has to be cold or cool wherever I'm going to wear one, like at your party. I think my stink would probably scare small children, cute men, and polite women away.Katie Willishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05437011279914641978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3492576230082245370.post-43069949477984772952013-07-16T07:35:20.324-07:002013-07-16T07:35:20.324-07:001)I love you.
2)You're gorgeous just as you ar...1)I love you.<br />2)You're gorgeous just as you are, but I will continue to encourage you however you want/need when it comes to clothes, food, exercise, or anything else. Ever.<br />3)This post makes me smile. It makes me proud of you & proud to be friends with such a BAB. :)Kirby McCauleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10349134131681105685noreply@blogger.com